I tried to explain to some real-world friends recently my view that we create everything that happens to us. It made me realise that to people who have never heard of this concept before, it’s a pretty difficult one to get your mind around. A lot of people who might visit a blog like this will have already heard of the law of attraction which subscribes to this view, so I have failed to explain the idea to those who haven’t.

Such as my friends the other day.

Before my friends could begin to grasp the idea, we had to get clear that I’m saying our reality is largely created at the unconscious level. I’m not talking about blaming people for their misfortunes or judging people who have everything as better or more worthy than the unlucky ones. It’s not about worthiness.

I once read a book called Childrens’ Past Lives. Now, my-friends-the-other-day would struggle with the whole past-lives issue too but, for now, read the book if you like because that’s not what I’m here to talk about. The author  noticed that her children could describe in one sentence the purpose of any past life they could remember. For example, her two children said they had come into the same family in this life so that they could learn to treat each other well, after not so much success with that in previous lives. There is another level of purpose to the events we create in our lives beyond the conscious pursuit of pleasure or fulfilment. There is our unconscious, or higher conscious, purpose.

And when you stop and notice, it often takes hardship or even trauma to get a message through to the whole self. I have a condition called fibromyalgia and once I had got the message it seemed to be giving me that it was important to SLOW DOWN, I would tell it it could go away now. I would take care of the slowing down task on my own.

It didn’t. And, you know, there are so many things in the world that seem to take priority over slowing down. Slowing down can wait till tomorrow after I have met this crucial deadline or made the money for this important bill, or gone out with these old friends because I can’t possibly say no to them again or they will think I don’t like them any more.

The body says it better. It says Slow Down NOW! THIS is more important than all the world.

O-kaaay. . .

What I’m trying to say is adversity might be the perfect tool to create the outcome that serves our own higher-conscious purpose. Not that adversity is such a necessary tool any more but, again, that might be for another day. Suffice it for now to say that New Energy has put paid to that.

This idea that we create everything that happens to us is fundamental to everything I am trying to explain here and especially to the next thing I want to explain which is that judgement – of others or of ourselves – and the concepts of right and wrong or morality are no longer relevant or appropriate. It doesn’t really matter if you still judge – I do sometimes just for fun – but to be living effectively in the New Energy it’s important to keep in mind that whatever anyone else chooses to do is entirely their decision and if it affects me that’s because I created that effect and not because they are an asshole. Whatever happens to me is about me and it’s a distraction to start attributing blame or, more to the point, it disempowers me.

If these ideas are new to you, you are probably saying, ‘Where’s the proof?? Show me how I create all these external events!’ and I’m taking the easy road and saying I have no intention of doing that. It’s a theory, a model that may work for you, that may feel right or may not. It’s a suggestion. See if you like it. Everyone has an understanding of reality that is a theory or a model. The most hard-nosed rationalists might use the model that what you see is what you get and what you don’t see doesn’t exist. They can’t prove this either. Choose the one that works for you.